Sunday, January 30, 2011

Never Settle


I wanted to write, to answer the question that many people ask me. “How did you get so lucky, to find your one true love?” First of all, that is one heck of a compliment, and I appreciate all of the love and support that I continuously receive. Honestly though…I AM, without a doubt a VERY lucky girl, but I think the real secret lies in two simple words- NEVER SETTLE. As a woman/man, we know exactly what we want, and know exactly what we don’t. Even if you think you don’t, as soon as certain instances happen in your life, and they make you feel amazing/horrible…your questions will soon be answered.  No matter what anyone says- Yes, it’s true, there is no such thing as the perfect person, but believe me when I tell you; there IS someone perfect for YOU. I always told people that I wanted to find a male version of me, and that is exactly what I found. Very similar interests, likes/dislikes, morals, beliefs, etc.  Also…You MUST be able to talk to each other. I’m sure we all can relate when talking about meeting your mate and wondering why girls can’t talk to guys the way we talk to our girlfriends…you CAN, it just takes the right guy, who actually cares about you & what you have to say. What a concept, right? I am a hopeless romantic, and have always had a difficult time knowing when to say when. I am not a quitter, and always wanted to try to make as much lemonade as I possibly could. When you no longer feel loved, appreciated, respected, enjoyed, important, etc…99.9% of the time, it is not going to get better.  And…when a guy/girl EVER tells you “You deserve better than me”…YOU DO! YOU are in control of your own destiny. EACH one of you is beautiful, and YOU DESERVE THE WORLD! GIVE THE WORLD as well, but make sure the hands that receive it, love you the same. Believe me, I too, have kissed my share of frogs, but it takes these experiences to help you realize the feelings you never want to forget, and the ones you never want to remember. The worst way to feel alone is to be in the arms of someone who doesn’t love you the same. Is it SO much better to actually BE alone. At least that way, you won’t be wasting your life away, waiting for the phone to ring. You can actually breathe. The pain of being in love with the wrong person is SO much worse than the pain of being alone. BELIEVE me. Love yourself the way that you want someone else to love you, and the rest will all be history.  Your Prince/Princess IS out there…You just have to believe. 

“If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you
as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better". You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel like he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is two way street. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Relationships should be based on a 200% quota rather than a 100% quota- 100% you and 100% him. “-Author Unknown

LIVE. LOVE. DREAM... BELIEVE.

“DON’T WASTE THE PRETTY”-He’s just not that into you.

 


There IS someone, perfectly imperfect waiting for you. NEVER SETTLE. You deserve EVERY happiness & I'm praying you find it,






 

1 comment:

Beth said...

I will never get tired of, or stop learning from this one! =)