The Greatest Love of All!

This post goes out to all my girls (& guys if you're reading)...

As I was driving the other day, running errands & enjoying the beautiful Texas scenery…this song came on Pandora.

While singing at the top of my lungs…I actually took the time to really listen to the words. At that moment, with tears streaming down my cheeks (Hey…I told you guys a long time ago I was a Hot Mess!)…it made me think of all of you. 

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I believe the children are our future
Teach them well and let them lead the way
Show them all the beauty they possess inside
Give them a sense of pride to make it easier
Let the children's laughter remind us how we used to be
Everybody searching for a hero
People need someone to look up to
I never found anyone who fulfilled my needs
A lonely place to be
So I learned to depend on me

[Chorus:]
I decided long ago, never to walk in anyone's shadow
If I fail, if I succeed
At least I live as I believe
No matter what they take from me
They can't take away my dignity
Because the greatest love of all
Is happening to me
I found the greatest love of all
Inside of me
The greatest love of all
Is easy to achieve
Learning to love yourself
It is the greatest love of all

I believe the children are our future
Teach them well and let them lead the way
Show them all the beauty they possess inside
Give them a sense of pride to make it easier
Let the children's laughter remind us how we used to be

[Chorus:]
I decided long ago, never to walk in anyone's shadow
If I fail, if I succeed
At least I live as I believe
No matter what they take from me
They can't take away my dignity
Because the greatest love of all
Is happening to me
I found the greatest love of all
Inside of me
The greatest love of all
Is easy to achieve
Learning to love yourself
It is the greatest love of all

And if by chance, that special place
That you've been dreaming of
Leads you to a lonely place
Find your strength in love 
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So many of you write to me about love & heartbreak, not finding the right one yet, etc. And you always refer to being single as not being "enough". Not good enough, pretty enough, smart enough, skinny enough…
When in reality, the only "enough" being single represents…is loving yourself enough…to wait for the right person. 
Enjoy every minute of being single!
I sure did.
The only time it's amazing being in a relationship…is when you are with someone amazing! 
Take your time. Love yourself first. And the rest…will all happen in time.
Not your time…but his.
You can't rush love.
If it's meant to be…it will always be.
If you follow some sort of "timeline", made up by you, family/friends, society…you'll end up like poor Kim Kardashian. 

You should only get Married when you find someone you could never imagine your life without.
And you should only have kids when that same person is exactly what you want your Son/Daughter to be like.

It's as simple as that.

If it happens at 20…perfect.
If it happens at 30…perfect.
If it happens at 40..perfect.
And so on.

If it gets too late for kids…maybe you were meant to adopt.
Maybe you we meant to love other people's kids.
If you don't meet the right person…it's not in the cards…period.
Otherwise you have kids, a dead beat Dad/Mom, kid grows up in a dis-functional broken home, etc. etc.
Not fair at all to the kid.
Think of what's best for your child…not what's best for you.

But it all starts with loving yourself first!
Have you ever noticed that when it rains…it always pours?
Meaning…your love life could be in a serious drought, and as soon as you meet someone & are as happy as can be…everyone else is all of a sudden attracted to you?
It's because you're happy!
People are drawn to happy people.
The happier you make yourself…the more you will attract happiness.
Also…you will attract exactly the level of self esteem you currently possess.
If your self esteem is low…like a magnet…that's exactly the kind of man/woman you will attract.
But if it's high…you'll attract that instead.

Use your single time to "do you". 
Take that class you've always wanted to take. Learn a new language. Sign up for dance lessons. Travel. Learn. Grown. Explore. 
And…make yourself the best person you can be. 
Once you've done all that…I can guarantee…love will find it's way to you.

"Learning to love yourself 
It is the greatest love of all" 

Besides...I love you. 
I know you're probably thinking..."Great. But that won't keep me warm at night." 
Maybe not your body...but hopefully...your heart.

Have Faith, My Beauties.
It will all happen when it's time. 
When you least expect it.
When you're ready for it.

I love you ALL & I have every faith…your Prince/Princess…awaits.
XO


Forever Yours,